Well, I went to the viewing yesterday. The original plan was to get a sitter and for hubby to go with me, but with Thing One sick, plans had to change.
It was really emotional. I used to think open caskets were gross, etc. b/c I didn’t grow up with that, but now I’m thinking that a viewing does serve a purpose, especially in a situation like this. B/c Sid was missing for several days before his body was found, if there was no viewing, it would be easy for the kids to fantasize that he wasn’t really dead, a mistake had been made, and that he’d come walking through the door one day. With the viewing, there’s no denying that he really is gone, so there’s some finality to it.
I was OK when I walked in, but I started crying when I got up to the front and saw how they had him laid out. B/c Sid had been a Marine, he was in his full dress uniform with a flag draped on the casket. They had a little table with some special mementoes, including a couple of golf balls (don’t remember the other stuff, but the golf balls made me smile). They had put one of his golf cllubs in the casket with him, too.
There were tons of flowers. I had gotten the PTA to approve buying flowers, which I was in charge of ordering. My favorite flower shop did a great job. We got a red, white & blue arrangement in a basket with a ribbon. I was afraid it would be the smallest batch of flowers there, but I should have known it would be big & beautiful, based on my experience with them and Paul’s “angel day” flowers.
There were tons of people there. When I left right before the rosary was supposed to start, there was a line out the door of people signing the guest book and waiting to come in. I don’t know where everyone was going to sit. It was encouraging to see that the principal from the school came, as did every teacher each of the kids had ever had there.
All the immediate and extended family had on these cool dog-tag necklaces with a holographic picture of Sid on it and “Sid” below the picture. It was a really special remembrance.
The funeral mass was at 10:00 this morning, but with Thing One sick, that wasn’t going to happen for us. I let Angie and Alexis know we why we wouldn’t be there.
So, here’s to Sid once again. And here’s to Angie, Jesus, and Alexis. It will be a long, painful road to healing, but I think they’ll travel it well, and I know they won’t travel it alone b/c they have so much loving support.