Monday, June 27, 2005

Baby Blanket

OK, I made decision about the baby blanket for Baby Kai.  I started that feather-and-fan one, and didn’t like how it was going.  Soooo, I took elements of a couple of different things and came up with my own.

It’s going to be a little smaller than the other ones I made, but since those ones were pretty huge, that’s OK.  Plus, this way it will get done quicker.

I’ll try to describe it, and when it gets big enough to look like something, I’ll post a picture.

I’m using the Fuchsia & Purple Wool-Ease, stranded together.  It’s BRIGHT!  It’s 89 stitches wide on size 11 needles.  It’s got a seed stitch border all the way around it like this blanket.  The body of the blanket is stockinette stitch, but with two columns of hearts going up the middle (separated by three stitches of stockinette stitch).  The hearts are from this scarf pattern (scroll down to page seven; it’s the heart one, not the boobie one).  Should be fun….

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Today

Well, today is the first of the painful summer anniversaries.  One year ago tonight, I was hospitalized with severe preeclampsia (used to be called toxemia, for those who haven’t been pregnant in a long time). 

I am so grateful for all the people who helped out during my nineteen-day hospital stay, people who:

  • took care of my kids
  • cooked for my family
  • brought treats to my family
  • helped fix up my house
  • visited me in the hospital
  • brought/sent me snacks
  • brought me stuff to read
  • brought me everything from slippers to a goofy pen to a back scratcher
  • brought me flowers
  • and, especially, prayed for me, Paul, and the rest of our family

I’m also really grateful for our fabulous insurance.  Without it, the hospital bill would have been $92,000.  With it, we paid NOTHING.

I’m doing so-so at the moment.  I’m glad we visited the cemetery on Saturday.  Thing Two chose some beautful purple & white orchids for us to take.  It’s touching to see the girls kiss Paul’s nameplate and talk to him while we’re there.

Last night, both girls were pretty upset; it was as if they knew inside about the anniversary.  Thing Two asked if I was going to have any more babies and said she wanted me to have another baby.  Thing One heard and started crying and crying.   I had her climb down from her bunk so I could hold her.  We ended up snuggling in my bed.  Hubby came in for a while, too.  There we were, the three of us, snuggling (plus Paul’s blue teddy bear from Lino & Viesha that he gave Thing One) and crying and crying.  Thing One and I talked about our favorite memories of Paul, what we missed most about him, how we wish he’d been well enough to come home.  I wished I could make her pain go away, but I was so proud of how much she loved him and cared about him.

Still working on plans for Paul’s birthday.  Hubby’s going to take the day off work.  We’ll definitely go to the cemetery and take a big bunch of balloons.  I wish I could leave a toy truck or something, but there’s no room since he’s in a niche, not a grave.  I was thinking, though, that I could get some tiny party-favor-type toys and tie them to the balloon strings.  Hubby was thinking we could let some balloons go, too.  Maybe we could tie some toys to the ones we release, too.  We’ll have some birthday cake at some point that day, too.  Maybe we’ll leave a piece at the cemetery for Paul, too.  A couple of the other moms in the “Still Grieving” Yahoo group say that they leave a piece at the cemetery for the birds to take up to heaven to their babies. 

On Paul’s “angel day”, we’ll probably invite a couple of people over and open the bottle of Dom Perignon that Skeef gave us several years ago and toast to Paul.  We’ve been hanging onto the champagne, waiting for a big enough occasion to open it.  We had considered opening it on our tenth wedding anniversary, but that didn’t seem big enough for a $100 bottle of wine.  We decided that Paul’s “angel day” is the perfect occasion.  We don’t want to drink it alone, though. Grief + alcohol = not a good thing.  (This is why hubby quit drinking after the last time he went to a Raiders game with Big Mike.)

More later.

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Sunday, June 26, 2005

Jenna

Well, Jenna’s going to have some NASTY gas later.  Today, we fed her the roasted pig’s head from last Saturday’s wedding.

When she came into the house afterwards, she was walking really slowly, exactly like a person who’s just pigged out (pun intended) and can barely move.  She’s now lying on the floor, ready to fall asleep.  (I think she sometimes prefers the floor to her bed b/c it’s cooler.)

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Saturday, June 25, 2005

She’s Done!

05 June Double Sophie Post Felt 001 Well, I was quite relieved to see how much the “Double Sophie” shrank.  I’ll post pattern details later.  Hope you can see the braided straps.  She didn’t come out exactly like I imagined, but I like her.

Next time, I think a “Sophie and a Half” would probably be a better idea.

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A’s v. Giants

05 June A\\'s Game 1 Hubby and Thing Two joined a bunch of other people from church at the A’s - Giants game tonight.  The good guys won.

They had a terrific time, and I was so proud of Thing One for having a good attitude about not going. She even let Thing Two borrow her A’s jacket.  While they were gone, we had “Mommy and Thing One Time”:  went to Target, went to Starbucks, then watched Pooh’s Heffalump Movie while I finished the Double Sophie.

Anyway, I digress (could it be b/c it’s quarter to one in the morning, and I’m finally getting tired?).  They had a great time at the game.  I posted the best pictures here.  Enjoy.

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Eeek!

05 June Double Sophie Pre-Felt Eek!  She’s huge.  Right this very minute, she’s in the washer.  Oh, gee, I hope she comes out OK.  I do love the colors.  If it’s not good enough to give to Joyce, maybe I’ll keep it for myself.
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Friday, June 24, 2005

Dog Mauling Mom Charged

I must say that I was VERY glad to hear this on the news last night.  There is NO way that this woman should have left this kid home alone, locked in the basement, with aggressive dogs in the house.  I hope that she is convicted.  She probably won’t have to do any time — the constant guilt and grief will be plenty of punishment — but I do hope that they look at whether she is a fit mom for her other children.

San Francisco Chronicle


Mom pleads not guilty in son’s dog-maul death

Jaxon Van Derbeken, Chronicle Staff Writer

Friday, June 24, 2005

 

The mother of a 12-year-old San Francisco boy mauled to death by the family’s two pit bulls pleaded not guilty today to charges of felony child endangerment and was released on her own recognizance.

Maureen Faibish, 39, appeared briefly in San Francisco Superior Court. She spoke only when the judge asked her what school she had attended — St. Anne’s, a parochial school — so he could gauge the strength of her ties to the community.

Judge Raymond Arata found that she had many community and family ties and no prior record, and released her on her own recognizance. Her bail had been set at $75,000 when she was arrested Thursday.

Faibish was charged in the June 3 death of her son Nicholas, who was mauled to death after she left him alone with the pit bulls in their home on Lincoln Way in the Inner Sunset district.

At the request of Assistant District Attorney Linda Moore, the judge ordered Faibish not to leave the city without notifying the court. Faibish must also call the court three times a week.

Afterward, Moore said she had reviewed the evidence, which includes videotapes, audio tapes and photographs.

“I think child endangerment is the appropriate charge in this case, and that is what the evidence shows, that is what we were very comfortable charging and that what we feel the evidence will prove,” she said. “We think she was criminally negligent, leaving her son behind.”

Faibish’s lawyer said the case is still in the early stages. “She maintains she didn’t do anything wrong and we stand by that,” Lidia Stiglich said.

Stiglich said she has not been given the findings of the police investigation. She said, however, that her client and the Faibish family have been through a terrible ordeal.

“In hindsight, everybody makes perfect decisions,” Stiglich said. “Let people not forget, this lady lost her son.

“Any time you know what the outcome is, if you could go back you’d make different choices,” Stiglich said. “The question is, is it criminal?”

The defense attorney said Nicholas had asked his mother if he could stay home the day he died rather than accompanying her on her errands.

 The basement where Maureen Faibish left him — the door to which she propped closed with a shovel to keep him separated from the pit bulls — was the family room of the home “where kids hang out,” Stiglich said.

“The kid didn’t want to go,” she said. “He wanted to hang out at home. He wanted to play Game Boy, watch TV, rather than run errands with his mom.”

Nicholas was dead when his mother returned from her errands two hours later.

The next court date is set for July 28, which Faibish will not have to attend.

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Poor Dog!

Poor Jenna!  Thanks in part to Thing One, she got all wet & muddy outside, so we had to give her a backyard bath.  She hated it!  Once she became resigned to the fact that she wasn’t getting away from me, she pretty much submitted to it, miserable with her tail between her legs.

Thing One & I got all wet.  We washed her with Head & Shoulders in hopes of helping her dry, itchy skin.  I asked Thing Two to come take some pictures, but she didn’t want to.  Oh, well.

Afterwards, all three of us each grabbed a towel and dried her off.  She wanted to sit outside in the sun afterwards, but I had to bring her in b/c I didn’t want her runnining in the dirt while she was still damp.  I’m sure the sun would have felt good, though. 

To try to make up with her, I made sure to give her a special treat when she came inside.  Poor dog!

I guess the one good thing is that we saved money by not taking her to the dog wash place.

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The Bag That Ate New York

05 June Double Sophie IP 2 OK, maybe a Double Sophie wasn’t such a good idea; this thing is huge.  Maybe a Sophie-and-a-Half would have been better.  I stopped at 98 rows instead of 108 b/c it was so huge.  I’ve got the strap stitches on holders, and I’m working on the flappy-doodle closure.  Not quite sure how long to make it.  We’ll see as I go.

Can’t wait to see how this thing felts.  I need to finish it up b/c now that that Wool-Ease arrived, I need to get started on Julie’s baby blanket.  MAYBE I can finish it before her shower.  I’m not up to going, and she understands, but I can send it down with someone else.

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Thursday, June 23, 2005

Wool-Ease

05 June Wool Ease The Wool-Ease just arrived.  Won’t this make for a cool baby blanket?  I like having bright, unusual colors, not just the typical pastels.  I still have two skeins of the Fuchsia leftover from my big stash, so I’ll have six skeins to use on this.  I guess now I need to decide which pattern to use….
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